Saturday, June 12, 2010
Mommy Wars, work, career, home
Do the mommy wars really exist? Is it an urban myth? Does anyone really care that much about what other people are doing? Don't we all have our hands full worrying about our own lives, taking care of our own families? Am I so clueless that I am missing that people are judging me for being a stay-at-home mom? Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn if someone else works or stays home. I have been told I am setting a bad example for my daughter by staying home. Do I care about what that person thinks? Did I rush out and get a career? Hell, no. I have friends who work and friends who stay home. I have never once heard someone pass judgment on someone else's choice. I truly think it is a figment of our crazy mom imaginations. I think we are so worried about whether we are making the right choices for our kids that we project our fears and concerns onto others. Most moms I know are too busy with their own kids, houses, husbands, families and friends to worry too much about what the lady down the street does all day. I also don't freak out when people call me a STAH mom. I don't get offended by the term "working" mom. I reserve that term for women who commute and collect a paycheck for doing a job or providing a service. I've been asked if it is hard to stay home with my kids. Yes!!!! It can be mind numbingly boring, stressful, repetitive and exhausting. But, on the other hand, I have great admiration for women who get up at the crack of dawn, get themselves and their kids ready, drop them off at school/daycare, work a full day, come home and deal with dinner, husbands, kids and household duties. Yes, I "work" but I do it at home. No, I do not collect a paycheck. No, I don't judge you for choosing to work or choosing to stay home. Do what is right for you and your family and mind your own business.